Well, it’s been a long time since I have written a post. Here is why!
In March we welcomed baby #2 into our family. Little Eva has already stolen our hearts. She came into this world at 1pm on a Saturday – giving Dad a full weekend to enjoy her before he had to go back to work. Thank you Eva!
Life with a 2 year-old and 2 month-old is quite a whirl wind of exhaustion, patience-testing, and joy….all at the same time. The first month was particularly challenging as I faced those days and nights that feel like they will never end. I called my brother and sister crying, begging for some magical secret on how to get my newborn to sleep. I was T-I-R-E-D!
At 2 months of age, she is now waking up only 2 times a night (on average), and has had a few nights of sleeping 6 hours or more in a row. Those nights are much appreciated by mama. Keep it up Eva.;-)
As for the 2 year old. Well….. we have seen better days. He is definitely beginning to show the signs of jealousy that he has to share his mom and dad with this new little person. Outwardly, he couldn’t be sweeter with Eva. He wants to hug and kiss her every chance he gets. Inwardly, though, he is obviously struggling because his behaviors have really turned very challenging. It feels like he is pushing every boundary that is set – again and again and again x 2,000. Trying to use all my Positive Discipline tools while exhausted from sleep deprivation is not always pretty. I must admit, I have had my most challenging moments in parenting yet. I have said things I am NOT proud of, and disciplined WITHOUT kindness.
Why am I sharing that? Well, I am betting that a lot of parents can related. In my parent coaching, I have always told parents that it is our job to try to be “good enough” parents – not perfect parents. I have defined that by saying “If you are remembering 20% of the parenting tips you have learned 80% of the time…you are doing great”. Well, now I have to swallow my own medicine and forgive myself for the 20% mess-up moments. I have been living them lately BIG time. But I do believe in the idea that mistakes are wonderful opportunities to learn. So, here’s to a lot more learning!:-)