Ladies and gentleman, the day has come that I am reaching out for some regular help with my little man (now 1 1/2). I always knew I would consider pre-school at SOME point for Chunky Monkey. But, I wasn’t sure when. I guess in my mind I thought it would likely be around age 3 1/2 or 4. But then, life never goes quite as you had imagined, does it? It SURE hasn’t for me.
I learned through a friend about a Montessori teacher in Bozeman who wants to open a small 5-child pre-school specifically for kids around 2. It’s 3 hours in the morning for 3 days a week. It just seems too good to pass up. He will have some great time to learn and socialize, while I will have time to…. Well, I’m not sure exactly what I will do. But I have no doubt I will find a way to fill the time. Hopefully it will mean I can blog post more often! Maybe I can take a yoga class to help my achy back that gets all outta wack from holding this 28 lb kid! Also, I hope to put the word out more in my community to teach some more parenting workshops.
There is a part of me that wonders if I am selling out on being “Just” a SAHM. But I am also trying to stay flexible in my expectations and not do anything just because I think I “should” (a constant battle as a SAHM).
If you have done something similar, drop a line to share your thoughts. It’s great to share in this journey with others.
The tool is simple – use hugs in difficult moments. Here is 1 mom’s report after our first class where she learned about how to offer your child a hug when they are throwing a tantrum (see the details on the card to the left):
“I have to admit I really thought the idea was kinda silly and unlikely to work with my son. But I tried it the next time he threw a tantrum, and…. it worked! I simply got down to his level and opened my arms and said, ‘I need a hug’. He had the most surprised look on his face and was stopped in his tracks. He came and gave me a hug and we both left the situation smiling. It was awesome!”
Sometimes you don’t even have to use words. When your child is having a meltdown about not getting his way, you can simply offer comfort by getting down to his level and stretching out your arms. Be sure that you don’t change the limit you just set because that could send the wrong message. The intent here is that you can still offer your child empathy, even when you have set a limit. Empathy is always the gateway to bringing a child from where he is (emotionally), to where you want him to be. (Learn more about this idea by reading “Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child” by John Gottman).
Last month I had a 3-part Parenting Workshop series on Positive Discipline. I LOVE the tools of Positive Discipline and encourage parents everywhere to check out their resources. Click here to visit Positive Discipline You can check out their books here.
Here is a quick tip to be less frustrated/angry when you follow-through.
I am a new post-career SAHM, living in Bozeman Montana. I share stories and ideas from parenting with a Montessori and Positive Discipline inspired perspective. Also, I LOVE DIY projects and finding great ways to use thrift store or hand-made toys for my little one. Learn more about why I say I'm "Just" a stay-at-home mom.